"Mark, let's go to the Stu."
"Mark, wanna go to Wal-Mart with us?"
"Hey, we're going to Little Rock tonight. You should come with us."
"Mark, we're watching a movie. Come join us."
"No." "No." "No." "No."
"No" is a difficult word to say because you don't want to let down your friends and you don't want to appear unfriendly. However, you have got to learn to say it or your best opportunity to learn the classroom material quickly and effectively will be gone. It's impossible to use your best time and energy of the day on spontaneous events and then expect to get stellar results trying to master the concepts from class. It doesn't work that way.
I know you want to have those great college memories--and I want you to have those great college memories--but there is a better way and more enjoyable way to have them. Get in the habit of studying your notes as soon as class is over. Better yet, start looking for odd moments throughout the day to study your notes. Hey, a few minutes here and there may be all it takes. You will be pleasantly surprised how quickly and effectively using odd moments to study can maximize your learning. The sooner you can get through Study Step 2 (Master your notes from class) the sooner you can get to Study Step 3 (Do your reading). I would suggest conquering a substantial portion of your reading before you head off on some study break excursion. If you can get a big chunk of your reading done first, you will have a much better time with your friends because you will know you will have gotten a bunch of your studying done already, and that feeling makes everything all right.
Let's practice. "No." How about this friendly approach: "Sorry, but no. Maybe next time." I promise, it gets easier with practice, and your friends will start to notice that you are a student on a mission. Start saying "No" more often and you can start saying "Yes!!" to the success that will come your way...both inside and outside the classroom.